We’ll Miss You, Abby

I love you, Abby

I’m hoping this post proves to be therapeutic.

I’m not afraid to say it. I’m a cat guy. Particularly, I’ve been a MY cat guy. Since 2002, Erin and I have had the best cat I could have ever imagined. Today, we had to the hardest thing we ever had to do. We had to put Abby down.

We thought we were just adopting a pet. But Abby turned out to be one of those remarkable animals that becomes a member of the family. She moved with us from an apartment to our first home. She helped us welcome two children. She was Ella’s best buddy. She let that kid do anything to her. She slept with us every night. She spent every minute of Erin’s two horribly sickness-dominated pregnancies sitting by her side. In many ways, she really was our first child.

I am an absolute wreck today. Erin is, too. Ella really doesn’t understand yet. Nolan… I’m just sad Nolan will not remember her.

One of my fatherly duties is taking thousands of photos and videos of our kids. I had practice with this task by doing the same for Abby. Below are a couple of video clips I really liked.

Abby Six Months

This is a compilation of clips from our first six months with Abby.

Abby Meets Fred

Abby was particularly interested when Erin decided to get a fish.

We also have a slew of photos of Abby, many in the very interesting poses she used to decide to sleep in. Here’s one of my favorites.

Abby Lounging

I don’t know what else to say. This really hurts. She was just an amazing cat. It feels so weird to be sitting here with Erin watching TV and me on the computer and Abby’s not with us on the couch. Something is missing.


  1. On December 17th, 2007 at 12:13 pm Scott said:


    I’ve started to leave a comment here a couple times and have always had to step away before I could get it finished.

    You see we have an Abbey of our own, as well as a Cooper, a Desi, and a Beemer. Our Penny has been gone for a couple of years now but we still think about her every day.

    It’s difficult to think about life without them. Like your Abby, our cats are also wonderful animals and wonderful companions – they add so much to our life and help to make our house “our home”

    I can’t express how sad I am for you – but I am glad you have such wonderful memories, photos and video to keep as a reminder.

    My wife has written a lot about our feline friends on her blog at upsidedowncats.com but this post here introduces you to both Abbey and Penny.



  2. On December 17th, 2007 at 3:49 pm Adam Darowski said:

    Hey Scott. Thanks for the link. Very special kitties there. I love how the site was named…

    Upside down cats…anyone who knows a cat is familiar with this pose. It says, “I feel so secure that I can assume this position of complete vulnerability. I am willing to expose my soft underbelly – at grave risk that it may be attacked – or worse yet – petted, kissed or nuzzled!”

    So, I’ve posted another photo. Abby was not only an Upside Down cat, but she was comfortable enough with us to sleep that way.

    Upside Down Abby

  3. On December 21st, 2007 at 10:40 am Mark said:


    Sorry to hear. I have an inside cat that has been my companion since 1994 and I will truly miss her when she departs. Pets are kinda like a utility – they are always one, they are always there until one day they aren’t.
    I also have 3 outside cats that have been with us while we built out house. They keep me company outside when I work, sitting and watching me shoveling, or wrenching on a car, or sitting on your lap when you stop to take a break. Cats are something you don’t know you needed until you have one, and then can’t imagine not having one around once you do.
    Sorry dude.

  4. On January 19th, 2008 at 8:21 pm Darren said:

    Nice compilation. Sorry to hear about Abby. I know the feeling. I am a “cat guy” too. Fluff and I have been through a lot, she is a member of the family.

  5. On February 25th, 2008 at 9:23 pm B.H said:

    Back in 2001 I was seeing a girl who just insisted “we” get a cat and keep it at my apartment even though we didn’t live together. I was dead set against it having that “Guys don’t have cats” attitude. Additionally, I’ve always had an alergy to dogs and assumed I’d also be alergic to cats… turns out that I’m not.

    In any case after a week of nagging I allowed my girlfriend to keep “her” cat she had went ahead and adopted at my apartment. His name was Simon. After a week, my now ex-girlfriend completely abandoned me with this cat.

    In early 2007 I rushed Simon in the middle of the night to an animal hospital. Faced with enormous vet bills with no guarantee he would not continue to be in pain, I also had him put down. I was inconsolable. So in short, I feel your pain brother. It was the absolute hardest thing I’ve ever had to do.

    I’ve since got another kitten who I’ve named Miles. He’s awesome in his own way too.

    I like you stop short of saying I’m a “cat guy”… but I do love my cat.